Monday, August 25, 2008

This is My Mother! Do You Know Her?

I have recently posted the following notice at my mother's retirement home that she might be assisted in a loving and gracious manor. The same manor she has been accustomed to in serving the needs of others the entire 93 years of her life.

THIS IS MY MOTHER!


Do You Really Know Her?

I wish not to be misunderstood. This very question troubles my soul today in my personal attitude toward my loving parents, who raised me to be who I am today. I wish only to share my compassion for my lovely mother, who at age 93 years is totally reliant for assistance from the nurses and staff at the nursing home where she how resides.

She requires much needed assistance today. She is embarrassed by requesting your help with the daily tasks she would never have dreamed that she would require assistance with:
HELP with eating
HELP with her constant need to the bathroom
and HELP with needs she can no longer communicate.

She has been the backbone in our large family of nine and requested help from no one. She raised beautiful vegetables appreciated by the entire neighborhood each year. She milked dairy cows by hand and orchestrated farm chores without complaint and always with the charming attitude witnessed by so many that have had the pleasure of working with this strong, determined woman. She was a spiritual example in early years by teaching us to kneel down to pray. She was the one!!!

We, as a family, wish to thank you for your assistance when we can no longer be there for her daily needs. This is my mother and she needs your help today!

She is living in a body that no longer resembles the attractive young lady that she was. She will soon have a glorified body, with no more pain or suffering; but for now, THIS IS MY MOTHER! Please help her when she requires your help. She can no longer be the kind, loving, cheerful person that we had grown to love and respect throughout the entire years of her life.

She is doing the best with what remains of her fragile body. She has run her uphill race for 93 years with humility, dignity, and determination without complaint but now she requires some cheering from the sidelines as she now sees a glimpse of her earthly finish line before eternity. Please cheer for her!

As a family, we wish to thank you.

THIS IS MY MOTHER! Do you know her?


1 comment:

She Loves Wine said...

Larry,

This is beautifully written. You are a good son and a wonderful advocate for your folks. Do you know about "The Eden Alternative"? It is more or less a blueprint to change long-term care. I am the director of development for a large nonprofit retirement community in Ohio, we are in the process of this culture change. May I use, "This is My Mother! Do you Know Her?" as a handout for our core management group?

Keep writing, I'm reading.

Jan

Memorial to Coming Home to Stay at 92